The Over Trilogy: How to Break Free from Overthinking, Overwhelmed, and Overtired
"Don’t let the Over Trilogy—overthinking, overwhelmed, and overtired—hold you back. Acknowledge your feelings, set boundaries, and reclaim your peace; you have the power to rise above!" — Nichole Banks
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The Over Trilogy: How to Break Free from Overthinking, Overwhelmed, and Overtired
If you’re a woman over 40, especially one navigating life after divorce, there’s a good chance you’ve met the Over Trilogy: Overthinking, Overwhelmed, and Overtired. They tend to show up uninvited, usually all at once, and leave us feeling mentally and emotionally exhausted. In today’s world, where we’re balancing work, relationships, self-care, and maybe even re-entering the dating scene, it’s no wonder we fall into this frustrating cycle.
But here’s the good news: you can break free from it. Let’s unpack this Over Trilogy and talk about how to reclaim your peace of mind.
What is the Over Trilogy?
The Over Trilogy consists of three interconnected feelings that love to stir up trouble together:
Overthinking: This is when your brain hits “replay” on every conversation, decision, and scenario. You spend hours thinking about what you could’ve said, what you should’ve done, and what might happen next. Before you know it, your mind has spiraled into worst-case scenarios that usually aren’t even close to reality.
Overwhelmed: Overwhelm tends to follow overthinking. The more you analyze everything, the more your mental to-do list grows. You start to feel like you’re juggling 20 different things, and all of them are about to fall apart. Life becomes a constant state of stress, and no matter how hard you work, it never feels like enough.
Overtired: The final piece of the trilogy is that bone-deep tiredness that no amount of coffee can fix. Even if you’re physically tired, your mind is still running a marathon at 3 AM. You can’t fully relax, and the lack of proper rest starts to take its toll on your body and mood.
Why Do We Get Stuck in the Over Trilogy?
It’s no secret that women are often expected to “do it all” and “have it all,” and let’s be honest—that pressure can feel crushing at times. After a life-altering experience like divorce, you may find yourself trying to rebuild, rediscover yourself, and manage life’s responsibilities all at once.
Society tells us we should be constantly “on,” whether it’s at work, at home, or even in our healing journey. This relentless need to stay on top of everything is a breeding ground for the Over Trilogy. If you’re not careful, you can quickly burn out, and that mental exhaustion can lead to real physical health issues down the road.
How to Break Free from the Cycle
So how do you deal with these feelings? Here’s the good news: breaking free from the Over Trilogy starts with a few mindful steps.
Challenge Overthinking
When your brain starts overanalyzing, ask yourself, “Is this thought helpful? Is it true?” Most of the time, we get caught up in imaginary problems that haven’t happened yet—and may never happen. By challenging these thoughts, you can keep your mind grounded in reality.Set Boundaries
Feeling overwhelmed often comes from taking on too much. It’s okay to say no, whether that’s at work, with family, or even to yourself. You don’t have to be a superhero every day. Start setting clear boundaries and prioritizing what’s truly important.Create a Sleep Routine
If overtiredness is your battle, it’s time to prioritize sleep. Try winding down an hour before bed—no screens, no work, just relaxation. Whether it’s reading a book, taking a bath, or sipping some herbal tea, creating a sleep routine signals to your brain that it’s time to rest.Small Wins Add Up
When you’re feeling overwhelmed, break tasks into smaller steps. Celebrate each win, no matter how small. Did you finally respond to that email you’ve been avoiding? That’s a win! Finished a difficult project? Celebrate that! Small accomplishments can give you the momentum to keep moving forward.Lean on Your Support System
Whether it’s friends, family, or a community of like-minded women, don’t be afraid to reach out when you’re feeling stuck. Sometimes, just talking through what’s on your mind can be enough to release the pressure.
Ready to Heal and Move Forward?
If you’re feeling lost, hurt, or unsure of your next steps, know that you don’t have to navigate this alone. My course, How to Navigate Heartache, Healing, and Love After Divorce, is designed to help you rebuild your life after betrayal. With actionable advice, emotional support, and a community of women who understand exactly what you’re going through, you’ll find the strength to heal and move forward. 💪✨
Why You Should Address the Over Trilogy Now
Ignoring these feelings can have real consequences on both your mental and physical health. Chronic stress from overthinking and overwhelm can lead to anxiety, burnout, and even serious health issues like high blood pressure. Not to mention, life’s too short to miss out on its joyful moments because you’re too caught up in what might go wrong.
Addressing the Over Trilogy means reclaiming your peace of mind. It means getting back to a place where you can feel confident, clear-headed, and excited about what’s next. And that’s exactly what you deserve.
Ready to Find Love Again?
Now that you’ve got the tools to tackle the Over Trilogy, let’s talk about an even more exciting possibility—finding love again after divorce. That’s what we’ll dive into next week on the podcast. Whether you’re ready to get back out there or still unsure, I’ll share tips and stories to help you figure out if the time is right. So be sure to tune in—you won’t want to miss it!
Breaking free from the Over Trilogy is possible, and with a little mindfulness and self-care, you’ll be back to feeling more like yourself in no time. Got any tips or personal experiences to share? I’d love to hear them—drop a comment or connect with me on social media!
Q&A: Understanding the Over Trilogy
Q1: What does the Over Trilogy mean?
A: The Over Trilogy refers to the three interconnected feelings of overthinking, overwhelmed, and overtired. Many women over 40 experience these emotions, especially during significant life changes like divorce. They often feed into each other, creating a cycle that can be challenging to break.
Q2: Why do I find myself overthinking everything?
A: Overthinking can stem from a desire to make the “right” choices and fear of making mistakes. It’s common to replay conversations and decisions in your mind, especially after a major life event. This habit often intensifies feelings of anxiety and can lead to feeling overwhelmed.
Q3: How can I manage feelings of being overwhelmed?
A: Start by setting clear boundaries. Identify what truly matters to you and say no to tasks or commitments that don’t align with your priorities. Breaking tasks into smaller, manageable steps can also help reduce the feeling of overwhelm. Remember, it’s okay to lean on your support system!
Q4: What are some effective ways to combat overtiredness?
A: Prioritize your sleep by creating a calming bedtime routine that allows you to unwind. Limit screen time before bed and consider relaxation techniques like meditation or deep breathing. A consistent sleep schedule can also help improve the quality of your rest, making you feel more energized during the day.
Ready to Heal and Move Forward?
If you’re feeling lost, hurt, or unsure of your next steps, know that you don’t have to navigate this alone. My course, How to Navigate Heartache, Healing, and Love After Divorce, is designed to help you rebuild your life after betrayal. With actionable advice, emotional support, and a community of women who understand exactly what you’re going through, you’ll find the strength to heal and move forward. 💪✨
Let’s take this journey together—because you deserve to love and be loved without fear or doubt. 💖
Navigating the Over Trilogy of overthinking, overwhelmed, and overtired is no small feat, especially for women over 40 who are often juggling multiple roles and responsibilities. Acknowledging these feelings is the first step towards reclaiming your mental and emotional well-being.
Remember, you are not alone in this journey. By implementing small yet powerful changes—like setting boundaries, prioritizing self-care, and challenging negative thoughts—you can break free from the cycle and start to feel more like yourself again.
Next week, we’ll explore an exciting new chapter: finding love again after divorce. Whether you’re ready to dive back into the dating scene or still figuring things out, join us for insights and inspiration tailored just for you.
Until then, be gentle with yourself, and don’t hesitate to share your experiences. Together, we can embrace healing and growth on this journey!
With love and strength,
Nichole Banks
Divorce Coach & Host of The Nichole Banks Podcast
Dare to begin your journey to healing, happiness, and new beginnings. ✨
Host of The Nichole Banks Podcast
Creator of the Boundaries 101 Course
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