When Loneliness Sneaks In (And What to Do When It Does)
“You’re not lonely because you’re unlovable. You’re lonely because you’re healing in a space you outgrew.” – Nichole Banks
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When Loneliness Sneaks In (And What to Do When It Does)
A raw, relatable, girlfriend-to-girlfriend guide to feeling less alone—even in your second act.
Girl… loneliness has this magical ability to creep in at the most inconvenient times—like when you’re finally feeling proud of yourself for keeping a succulent alive, or when you’ve convinced yourself you’re totally fine watching Netflix alone on a Saturday night.
And then suddenly… BAM.
The silence gets loud.
The ache hits.
And you start wondering if this is just how life is now.
Spoiler alert: it’s not.
Loneliness is a visitor—not a permanent roommate—and today, we’re going to walk through some real, grounded ways to soften it, shake it off, and reclaim your spark again.
Pull up a cozy blanket, girl… let’s talk.
1. Connect with Nature 🌱
There’s something almost magical about fresh air.
A walk, a garden nursery stroll, a moment under the sun—you don’t need hiking boots and a motivational playlist. Just step outside and breathe. Nature grounds you when your emotions feel loud.
2. Build a Support Network 🤝
Listen… you don’t win prizes for doing life alone.
Text a friend. Call your sister. Join a divorce support group.
Even a five-minute “hey, just checking in” can cut loneliness in half.
Connection changes everything.
3. Dive Into a Hobby 🎨
Loneliness gets quiet when your hands (and mind) get busy.
Paint. Cook. Redecorate. Take up a niche hobby no one saw coming—like adult coloring books or pottery shaped suspiciously like wine cups.
Find joy in the things that feel good to you.
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4. Try Mindfulness (The Non-Woo-Woo Version) 🧘♀️
No crystals required, girl.
Just slow your breath. Name what you’re feeling. Sit with it instead of fighting it.
Mindfulness isn’t magic—it’s self-awareness with a little kindness sprinkled on top.
5. Volunteer Your Time ❤️
If loneliness is heavy, service is the lift.
Doing something for someone else reminds you you’re capable, needed, and powerful—even on the days you feel wobbly.
6. Create a Daily Routine 📅
Routine is soothing when life feels unsteady.
It gives your days structure—and structure brings emotional safety.
Start tiny. A morning ritual. A midday walk. A bedtime wind-down that doesn't involve doom-scrolling.
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7. Limit Social Media 📱
Look, curated Instagram couples can make anyone feel like they’re falling behind in life.
Balance your scroll time with real-life connection.
Instagram isn’t reality—it’s Photoshop holding hands with delusion.
8. Learn Something New 📚
You want a confidence booster? Watch yourself grow.
Take a class, try a new skill, pick up something random just because.
Learning keeps your mind engaged and expands your world.
Loneliness doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you’re human, rebuilding, and becoming someone stronger than you were before.
You’re not behind.
You’re not forgotten.
You’re becoming the woman who’s going to look back and say, “Damn… I really did that.”
And until that day?
Come sit with me on the podcast. You don’t have to walk through this part alone.
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Dare to begin, girl.
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Nichole 💛
Divorce Coach & Host of The Nichole Banks Podcast
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